Spirit Whisper: Mother of Slain Girlfriend

The Farewell Hug

One of the things her spirit was asking me was - to forgive the young man responsible for her death. That was beside me and beyond me to understand that early in my grief. I hated him and wanted to continue to hate him. I felt it was my right.

One day I was working my shift at a store when her spirit came to me all excited.

"My Momma is coming. My Momma is coming. Straighten yourself up and make a good presentation. I want you to put your best foot forward cause I want you to tell her some things for me."

My response was,

"Oh hell no. You see how people look at me when I talk about this like it is real. It is real to me but very UNREAL to them. She is going to look at me like I am crazy and I am tired of that look."

She assured me that if I handled myself properly - her Mom would get a boast in moral during her own grief. I gave in and was going to comply with her request. I asked what she wanted me to pass on to her.

"Tell her what I have been telling you. She needs to find her healing by forgiving the kid who shot me."

"OH HELL NO! I ain't going to make myself a hypocrite at this stage in my life. How can I be passing on that message if I am against it myself? If I ain't convinced then how am I going to convince her it is the right thing to do? You TELL her this and let her argue with you about it -- just like I am arguing with you about it."

Her spirit went on about how I just had to be the messenger and didn't have to believe in it. I kept refusing to comply and she finally said,

"You know - you've had experience with spirits in the past. Your friend told me about those hauntings on ghost road. Your still a young man and your going to move on with your life eventually. Eventually your mind is going to turn to what all guys think about at your age. SEX! I am going to make it my sworn duty, pledge and obligation to haunt your bedroom from now to doomsday and make every single love interest of yours wet themselves right as you two get started in some heavy petting. You should now I have the ability to do that - from your experience with your other friend in the past."

She made me cringe with the thought of it. I was till young enough to feel like that was some spiritual form of castration.

"All right already. Just tell me how to do this since I don't believe it is the right thing to do in this situation."

Her Mom showed up and I was pouring over in my mind how to make the words come out right. We spoke about the grief, loss and pain and wondered where each of us was at in dealing with it. After awhile her Mom told me,

"You know, I think my daughter was a very lucky to have had you as a friend before she left this world."

I told her,

"No ma'am. I can't agree with you on that one."

She looked shocked for a moment and asked me to explain myself. I told her,

"Well ma'am. It is sort of offensive to me for you to speak of her in the past tense. Regardless of what this world will try and make me to believe - she is still very much alive in my heart. She ain't been gone long enough to not feel her chattering away with the same raunchy humor she walked with while she had a body to walk around with."

Her Mom had sad look on her face the whole time. When I said that - she started to smile and then bust out in a wide grin. She started nodding her head and said,

"I guess you two where, I mean - are that close huh?"

"Yes ma'am and with that in mind I want to pass on something to you that I don't totally agree with - but for the sake of your mind - I feel it is something she would want the both of us to do -- regardless if I believe it is right or wrong. I feel her being in spirit like she is would want us to work on forgiving the young man for his misdeed. She would feel that would be the right thing to do in God's eyes, mind and heart. I can pass this information on to you and let you know that my mind is NO where near wrapping itself around the idea of it - but I feel her spirit has planted a seed in my heart that is going to grow into doing the right thing before it is over with."

She agreed how hard it was to wrap her own mind around the idea and also agreed it was something that needed to be planted and nurtured with time and care.

As she left we kept our eyes on one another. At one point - while she was outside - I saw a bewildered look come across her Mom's face and then a huge sigh passed from her. I later asked the spirit of my girlfriend what had happened. She told me,

"You opened her mind up enough for her to hear me as your hear me. I told her we would met again someday and I hugged her and thanked her for everything. She spoke back to me and acknowledge my presence with her in the moment. It is a moment she will carry to the end of her days here in this world. It is not good bye as much as it is - until we meet again."